This entrepreneur thing is haaaard. I thoroughly enjoy it, don’t get me wrong! But I struggle with the extensive amount of time I spend working vs the time I spend focused on my family. (I have 4 kiddos!) You know, the dreaded mom guilt.
Then are the highs and lows. The highs like magazine features, big IG shares, campaigns, design clients, etc are always followed by lows. Lows that consist of crickets chirping, the inbox isn’t overflowing and you wonder “now what?” Like you should be embarrassed that no one is knocking down your door.
And you are devoting all this time to it, at the expense of your kids and your husband. (so says your mind even though they assure you it’s all good, ladies amiright?!)
It’s a total roller coaster. Whether you have 1k monthly blog pageviews or 100k monthly pageviews, 1k IG followers or 100k IG followers, it’s loaded with ups and downs.
I have these periods of time I’m so busy I feel like my head is going to explode to stay on top of it all. And I want to finish up and bask in the quiet moments in between.
Then I get everything completed and I’m all “that quiet was great for a day, now how do I move forward?” It’s about recognizing and embracing the quiet times, the lulls in between the highs.
If we don’t have the lows how will we ever recognize and fully embrace the highs? I’ve struggled with all of this over the last year. I feel like you can’t talk about it. If you talk about having those lulls you look like a failure, or worse feel like a failure.
The biggest thing I’ve realized is YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE. No matter how rough it feels sometimes I try to remind myself of how far I’ve come. The difficulties, blood, sweat and tears I’ve put in to get to this point. Keep working, keep fighting for yourself, and what is supposed to happen will happen!
I’m a big believer in the universe bringing you whatever it is you need in that moment. That goes for the highs and the lows. There is always something to learn. A way to grow from each moment.
At my desk…..with my permanent butt impressions in the seat.
One way I have embraced this recently is not caring so much about Instagram. I was so hung up on it for a year. I was constantly engaging, posting and scrolling. IG has taken such a dramatic turn that you have no idea what it’s going to do. It’s like the wild wild west of squares. I just let it go. You can’t let it take you over, it gets in your head and can take you down a depressing road. (I’ve been there.) (read more about not fitting in here, and where to find your value here)
The universe just does it’s thing for you in it’s own time. I had been wanting to paint our kitchen for a couple of years. I finally decided we were going to do it, now it was a matter of do we DIY it or hire it out. I had met with a local company THAT morning when I got a message from an international paint company about trying out their paint. (a paint I was interested in!) Ya’lls the timing was bonkers crazy.
I have big goals and dreams in the back of my mind as I know you all do. Don’t back away from them. I/we just need to stay focused, stay positive and most importantly CUT OURSELVES SOME SLACK. Take a day off now and then.
You deserve to walk away to play with the kids, go on vacay or enjoy dinner with the fam. It will all still be there when you come back to it.
And always remember, you are a total rockstar badass boss babe. Entrepreneur-ing takes some serious guts and giant cajones. The fact that you are even working at it means you are already a gold medal winner.
What are some struggles you have faced as a boss babe? How did you deal with them?
I always love to hear from you so hit me up in the comments!
My big kitchen project is coming up soon!
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